In our quest to combat racism and oppression, we must look not only at the direct acts of bigotry but we must examine behaviors and actions that seem inconsequential and even affirmative, but that actually perpetuate stereotypes in insidious ways. One such example of that is fetishization. Fetishization can be thought of as the act of making someone an object of sexual desire based on some aspect of their identity. Racial fetishization comes in many shapes and forms. On dating websites, for example, the racial fetishization of Asian women manifests into more dating prospects. One study even found that men on dating websites preferred Asian women compared to other racial groups.
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Actress and dancer Kelechi Okafor has built a large online following talking about issues affecting black British women. But recently, she has been under attack on social media for having a white fiance - which some have accused her of hiding. A while ago I thought, why does it seem that most prominent black female activists seem to be dating white men? Then I had a moment of introspection where I thought, hang on, I'm one of those women. I speak up about racism and sexism affecting black women. I have an online following.
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This summer I went through my very first breakup. I recapped the entire thing to my friend over a hysterical video chat, beginning with the arguing, leading up to the Tinder notification, and ending with the discovery of another woman's nudes in his deleted iCloud folder. My friend's very first question, amidst my tears and freshly packed suitcases was, "Was she Black? Trying so hard to delete the memory of the mysterious woman in the photo from my mind, I didn't at all question why our races mattered, or why my white friend felt so compelled to ask. Her race did not once cross my mind, but rather how the man I loved had his arms wrapped lovingly around a woman who was not me.