Most of the time, this is the best thing about masturbating — all the fun of sex without actually having to interact with another person. But contrary to popular belief, masturbation is not, inherently, something that has to be done alone. Mutual masturbation, also known as partnered masturbation, is the act of masturbating in the presence of a partner, and it was basically a socially distanced sex act before anyone was talking about socially distanced anything. Of course, as with any sex act, there are many different variations of mutual masturbation, some of which may involve making physical contact with your partner.
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Kelly Gonsalves is a sex educator, relationship coach, and journalist. She received her journalism degree from Northwestern University, and her writings on sex, relationships, identity, and wellness have appeared at The Cut, Vice, Teen Vogue, Cosmopolitan, and elsewhere. A hearty round of applause to all the couples who've thus been having a lot more sex these days because of all the extra time they're spending together. Good for you guys. But those aren't the people I want to talk about right now.
As women in society, we are often taught to put our needs last, and this comes into the bedroom as well. But the thing is, allowing ourselves to be vulnerable in front of our partners creates intimacy and connection. In fact, the things that feel the most vulnerable for us are often the most powerful things we can do.
If a hobby is an activity pursued for pleasure, then masturbation is perhaps the hobby most of humanity shares. Though the prevalence of masturbation varies by age, most men and women in all age groups say they do it, and the majority of Americans of both genders continue to indulge at least up to age Born not long after Betty Dodson published her revolutionary masturbation how-to Sex for One the year-old leads female-masturbation workshops to this day , they were raised solidly in an age of sex-positive feminism, easily accessible erotica, and general sexual openness and transparency. Not that the role of masturbation in a sex-positive relationship is entirely clear.